Oh contraire! We doulas love to support the partner as well as the woman, helping them be the best that they can be, for you. Doulas can actually bring the couple closer together.
Several studies have shown that women are more satisfied with their partner’s support during their labor when a doula is present
. By making sure the partner’s needs are met (food, drink, reassurance, suggestions), the woman and partner can work more closely together.
As a doula, I will allow the partner to participate at his or her comfort level
. Whether the partner is mostly a quiet observer, sharing the moment with the birthing woman; an active participant providing the main source of support; or shy and unversed in their support role, doulas can roll with that. We’ll fill in and adapt as necessary
, allowing the partner to participate as they wish, without leaving the woman’s needs unmet.
If you’re a partner
wondering why the heck you’d need a doula when your mama’s got your rock-star support (I mean that, she needs you!), check out this article
. You will laugh and learn. I promise it won’t disappoint.